This isn't about virtue shamming or Far Left idiocy. The issue isn't whether men think it's no big deal. It only comes down to whether women do.
What's interesting to me is how much of our language and culture comes down to us in forms that seem misogynistic and racist in modern context. We can argue that people are too easily offended or we can work toward more equality and inclusiveness. Yeah it's a pain in the ass but progress usually is.